Quick tip: New Is Always Better

Published about 6 hours ago • 1 min read

SARAH CURNOLES

BREAKUP & DATING COACH

My dear friend,

When we are going through a breakup, we are constantly in a state of change. So, why, oh why, would I tell you to add more newness to your life??

Choosing to learn or do something new has a few crucial benefits for healing after a breakup:

You are actively choosing this change. This gives you a sense of power and control. Maybe you didn’t want the breakup but you can choose to take swing dance lessons because you always thought it looked cool. Or you can spend 15 minutes a day on Duolingo learning Italian for that dream trip someday.
Small challenges lead to small wins. This adds up. This boosts your confidence.
You have something to talk to people about that isn’t about your breakup. No one wants to rehash their breakup story over and over again. If you’re trying something new, you have something to talk about when you call your mother and she asks how you’re doing.
When you try something new, you are going to struggle. But when you struggle trying something new, you build muscles to handle discomfort in all areas of your life. This actually helps you to heal from your heartbreak while you’re not even focused on it.

Choosing to spend your time in a way that improves you, challenges you, grows you, gives you a sense of accomplishment is incredibly empowering.

What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try but it’s been sitting on the back burner? As a newly single person, you probably have some unexpected free time when you used to do that thing your ex loved and you tolerated. Dedicate some time to you trying something new that you’re curious about. Do this at least once per week.

Hit reply and tell me what you’re going to try. I can’t wait to hear!

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