SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP & DATING COACH My dear friend, When we are going through a breakup, we are constantly in a state of change. So, why, oh why, would I tell you to add more newness to your life?? Choosing to learn or do something new has a few crucial benefits for healing after a breakup: You are actively choosing this change. This gives you a sense of power and control. Maybe you didn’t want the breakup but you can choose to take swing dance lessons because you always thought it looked...
2 days ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP & DATING COACH I was coaching a client the other day. She is starting to date again after a really painful divorce with a toxic ex. This moment is incredibly vulnerable. If you’re divorced and dating again, you know what I’m talking about. You’ve been burned. Maybe it was a really bad burn. So bad that you don’t trust most people anymore. And as you start dating, you realize you don’t trust most of the guys you’re going out with. And you start to wonder if you can even...
8 days ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH Have you ever been driving home from work when your gut says to take the backroads? You decide to listen, it would be a pretty drive anyway. And luck would have it, you find out later there was a major accident on the highway that you avoided. We can’t listen to our nudges if we’re not paying attention and learning their language. They don’t speak in words. Our intuition speaks in feelings. We must start to pay attention to the feelings. We do this by taking two...
10 days ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH Maybe you didn’t see it coming. Maybe you don’t want this. And yet. Here. You. Are. And you face a choice. You can spend your time and energy trying to figure out why. Or trying to pretend like this isn’t where you are. Or trying to cling to the good memories and the good times hoping that your ex will change their kind and come back. Or you can accept that this is the challenge you are facing. What if it’s ok that your future won’t be perfect? (It was never going...
16 days ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH Steve Jobs was a rebellious thinker. He was disruptive. He had an idea for a mouse that could move in all directions, something that had never been made. One of his top engineers said, “it can’t be done.” The next day when the employees came to work, that guy did not. He was fired. Steve Jobs lived in the realm of possibility, not in the world of “it can’t be done.” He kept people around him that wanted to find a way through the obstacle. Not people who stopped...
24 days ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH I’m writing this email from the airport on my way to Nashville to work at a retreat. My sister dropped me off early, so I had some time. My sister lives 10 minutes from the airport. She always tells me to park my car in front of her house and let her drive me. For a long time I would pay for parking at the airport or use a Lyft because I was afraid to ask for help. This time, I asked. I still struggled with being avoidant about asking for help. I was afraid to...
28 days ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH I recently quit my day job. I had a nice job working in professional theater. Most people thought my job was cool. And I was really good at it. But I had a deep knowing that there is something more out there for me. I wanted to grow my coaching business, and in turn, grow myself. I took a long time to evaluate the decision. Looked at it from multiple angles. And even though I didn’t feel ready, I also knew that was an impossible target. Some of that was going to...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH A breakup can feel like your life was shattered beyond recognition. When life is in pieces, how do you begin to put things back together? Allow me to introduce the Japanese art of kintsugi. Kintsugi is the art of repairing broken pottery using lacquer mixed with gold. Not only does the pottery become a work of art, it actually heals stronger than before. This applies to your life, too. Except the gold in this case are your beliefs. Most of us have a negative...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH Hello there! No contact doesn’t guarantee you’ll get over your ex. I went contact with all my exes. But that didn’t stop me from thinking about them all the time. No contact is a tool. But it won’t build the whole house for you. The key to getting over someone is to stop thinking about them. Start thinking more about yourself. This requires you to break some habits. In a relationship, you’re so used to thinking about the other person. So you have all these habits...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read